As planners, I’m sure you’ve all had to manage a series of personalities when it comes to the brides, grooms and even family members. However, when it comes to managing the personality of a difficult bridesmaid the rules might change just a little. I think we’ve all had our share of bridesmaids that have proclaimed the title of “planner”. The reality is that while it’s quite a pill to swallow we have to treat the bridal party with the same kit gloves that we treat our couples. Our goal as planners is to provide an unforgettable experience. At times, this might mean we need to go out of our way to make everyone happy, including those who are not that easy to be around. Workaround them if you need to. The reality is that the couple has hired your professional experience to make their dream wedding come true. So try not to allow someone else’s insecurity make you second- guess yourself. Look beyond and try the best in people by exercising your deepest form of grace. The following tips help me tremendously when it comes to these situations.
- Remember that while the chemistry might have gone array with some of the bridesmaids in the bridal party, they are very special to the bride and groom. Try to avoid as much as possible to complain about them to the couple.
- Try not to take anything personally. As planners, we are always trying to get everyone’s approval and when this doesn’t happen we feel horrible and try to make up for it.
- When asked to do something different than what has been accorded with the couple always check-in with your client first. Don’t assume that the directive is coming from the bride/groom. Sometimes bridesmaids make suggestions without the consent of the couple and tend to take matters into their own hands.